Do you want to live your life your own way or according to what other people say? If your reputation is your top concern (and it should be), then you need to stop listening to what other people say and start listening to what your inner voice is telling you! Compromising what you want is never going to help you get anywhere, no matter what people say. Stay true to your beliefs. Talking to an older relative might help you get some insight on how to stay on track.